Family violence is the most famous types of human violence prevalent in our time, and although we did not get after the careful study shows us the proportion of the domestic violence in our society, but the effects have started to show in concrete on the surface which informs that the percentage in the high needs of all parties to the community move in a quick and serious to stop this growth and repair what can be repaired.
Before getting into more in the field of domestic violence, we must first know the family and show some of the important things in family life and family relations, which are to be achieved or even some of them may be a stone and put a key in building a strong bridge to the phenomenon of domestic violence.
Definition of the family:
* Family: is a social institution that arise from coupling a man and a woman holding aims to create a building block that contribute to community building, and the most important elements, the husband and wife, and children.
Staff of the family:
Verkan the family based on the above are:
(1) pair.
(2) wife.
(3) boys.
The family of man «warm shelter, and safe haven, and the first school, and the center of love and tranquility and the field of peace and tranquility
Now, after talking about the definition and composition of the family to move on to describe the relationship between the presumed natural elements of this family.
((Compassion and charity based on the familial relationship of sound))
(1) love and affection: This approach, although common to all family members, but the responsibility for this lies primarily on women, it is by virtue of the emotional structure created by God it is the family member most able to charge the family atmosphere of love and affection.
(2) cooperation: This cooperation includes various affairs of life, and measure things home, and this aspect of the approach made by the Islam of the family requires a waiver and giving more than the husband.
(3) mutual respect: We focused on the stairs of Islam to respect each other's family members in the hearts of its members.
Of constants that must be established by the Director of the family - husband - mind is «that God did not make him any authority over his wife only with respect to enjoy sex, and had no authority over her outside only through some reservations about the legitimacy that is different scholars in its borders, and on the exit of women from her home without the permission of her husband ».
As for what the women of the household duties by which the husband and family to serve it, such as the donation is not accepted, otherwise they are not legally obliged to provide all that. Although some amounts of these functions provided by the women to the level of the duty which is expressed in the moral duty imposed by Islamic ethics.
If the husband knew that these things home donated by the wife were not at the heart of its duty, but women are improved, since that is the introduction of the charity without asking, What should the husband about this woman improved?
Governed only by the mind here that man must give thanks that the optimizer does not offset the drought?
This fact is imposed by the eye of reason was affirmed by the Qur'an in the verse:
{There any reward for good other than good}.
The least that can be started by the husband to the wife of improved «that works with all he has in order to respect the pain of his wife, and her feelings, and her trouble, and effort, and points of weakness».
The responsibility of the husband towards his wife:
1 - approval, the approval of Ajtalp, and her love, and desires.
2 - and good he is with them, and use good win over her heart Authority.
3 - and expanded it ».
Wife's responsibilities in dealing with children and in this aspect we focused on the responsibility of the wife because it is the side that deals with children more than the husband:
1 - decorate the good behavior of children and direct their attention means at its disposal to pursue that good behavior, and the results of that behavior and its effects on them in this world, and in the Hereafter.
2 - Taqbih wrong and deviant behavior to them, and divert their attention as far as possible that all such conduct, and inform them of the ill-effects, and the serious consequences that can result from erroneous and deviant behavior.
3 - raising girls to chastity and purity, and guide them to follow the Canary women, and with those who warn of modeling the moral Asthern Banhrafhn. As Thdhirhen of recklessness, and take off the veil and not to listen to what is being said against him by the falsehoods of the enemies of Islam and follow suit.
4 - in moderation and not extravagant passion to coddle the boys, who leads the boys to the weakness of character, and not to its progress to the stage, which bear the responsibilities.
5 - to draw the attention of boys to the place occupied by the father in the family, and they must respect him and follow his example - to impose as a man worthy to follow him - and that so that the father of the performance of its role in guiding the children, and reform of aspects of the wrong in their behavior.
6 - to avoid the collision pair - especially in front of the children - because it creates a gap between them may lead to the disruption of the child and his fear and concern.
7 - and the father should be informed on aspects of deviant behavior in children, or which may be Abdr them of the mistakes that warn of deviation and not get carried away with emotion and fear of retaliation by the father.
8 - Maintenance of children from engaging in friendships improper, and away from the temptations of the street, and the media misleading. Programs such as deviant and misleading books.
9 - the preservation of their appearances in front of boys and Atzanha so as not to follow the example of the boys, because they impose on the failure to do so will fall in a contradiction between what you say the mother, or practiced.
The responsibility of the husband - the father - to the children:
1 - the necessity of selecting the right womb for the child to choose a righteous wife who grew up in a good environment.
2 - create adequate living conditions that will enable them to live Bhina.
3 - Name a good selection of the right boy to his father.
4 - to improve the education and upbringing of children the proper education, and prepares them to be sound configuration to be good people prepared to serve the community.
5 - He gives them that if reached.
Now, after the family and show their importance and their relationships and rights of its members go back to talk about our topic which is the primary domestic violence:
And because we know with certainty what has been mentioned above that the family is the foundation of society and a source of strength and superiority, we emphasize the fact that domestic violence more lethal communities of wars and epidemics that plagued the health community basis Fahdh or weaken it.
Hence the importance to accelerate the treatment of this disease before it is too late.
Now let's review some of the causes that we know:
That the phenomenon of domestic violence was the result of modern life, psychological pressure and frustration, generated from the nature of daily modern life, is one of the sources of primary and fundamental to the problem of domestic violence.
And violence is a learned behavior learned during the individual phases of socialization. Individuals who have been the victim of his young age, their family members to practice it in the future.
Also, the cultural values and social norms play a major role and important to justify violence, since the values of honor and social status determined by certain criteria are used sometimes as a duty and violence is inevitable. As well as individuals learn Almkanat social and revered forms associated which give strong rights and privileges of the most abusive in the family poor, and this sometimes Applies between brothers and sisters.
Who are the most vulnerable to domestic violence:
Show all of the studies carried out by Arab countries on the phenomenon of domestic violence in their communities that the wife is the first victim and that the husband is thus the first aggressor.
In the order followed by sons and daughters as victims of either the father or the Big Brother or Uncle.
Fbnsph 99% of domestic violence be the source of a man.
Causes of domestic violence:
Studies have shown the level of the Western world and the Arab and also including Saudi According to an article in the newspaper home on Wednesday, 5 April 1427 H to other causes, the most prominent is the most prevalent use of alcohol and drugs.
Comes after him in the order of mental illness and the social one or both spouses.
Disorder and the relationship between the couple for any reason other than mentioned above.
Motives of domestic violence:
1 - motivated self:
Motivations are those that stem from the same man, and himself, which led to domestic violence,
2 - economic drivers:
In the family is not the father purports to get economic benefits from behind the use of violence against his family, but be transcript of shipment disappointment and poverty, which reflected its violently by the father about the family.
3 - Social motives:
Customs and traditions that will come to know a society that requires of man - according to the requirements of this tradition - a measure of manhood in the leadership of his family through violence, force, and that they measure that shows how much manhood, otherwise it is from among the fallen men.
This type of motivation is directly proportional to the culture by society, especially the culture of family the more the community a high degree of education and awareness, the smaller the role of these motives even absent in affluent societies, and on the contrary, in the communities of Culture Ltd, with different degrees the impact of these motives in different degree of degeneration of the cultures of societies.
The results of domestic violence:
1 - the impact of violence, those who exercised the right:
There are many implications of the Morse family violence against him, including:
A - The cause of violence in the emergence of psychological contract that may develop and worsen the conditions or behavior hostile or criminal.
B - increase the likelihood of adoption of this person - who suffered from violence - the same approach that has been practiced against him.
2 - the impact of violence on the family:
Disintegration of family ties and lack of confidence and diminished sense of security and perhaps get to the point of disappearance of the family.
3 - the impact of domestic violence on society:
Due to the fact that the family nucleus of society, any threat will be directed towards it - through domestic violence - will lead ultimately, a threat to society as a whole entity.
Solutions:
1. Preaching and religious guidance is important to protect the community from the problems of domestic violence, as the teachings of Islam illustrate the importance of compassion and family cohesion,
2. Provide psychological counseling and social and family of individuals who belong to families where the prevalence of violence
3. The necessity of state intervention in order remove the state from the person in charge of them in the family if it is proved inefficient to do so and give it to another relative with him pay alimony, and if not possible, can be found in the so-called families of alternative that take care of children who are victims of domestic violence.
4. A link between the victims and the advisory bodies available and by creating hotlines to these agencies can provide advice and assistance if necessary.
Conclusion:
When we want to raise and educate both boys and girls Nrbehma on the basis that both men and women complement each other.
Vonoth women but is Avataftha, and affection, and her paper.
The man's masculinity but is willfully, and tenacity, and ability to cope with events.
The man suffers from a lack of passion, and compassion, and tenderness, and women - which has a surplus of it - that give it a passion, and compassion, and tenderness. That is why the wife is a home to repose {to}.
And women suffer from a lack of will and firmness, hardness, and the man - who has a surplus of it - is the one who gives the will and firmness, and hardness. That is why the husband is valuable to the wife as Allah the Almighty says:
Men are protectors and maintainers of women '.
Education is the permission on the grounds that men and women complement each other ».
There are possible ways pursued to help the wives and children who have experienced domestic violence, and the first step is to study and collect all possible information about the dynamics of their families.
1. Provide safe places for women and children can go to to feel safe even for a short period of time and can be followed there by the specialists.
2. Work on the education of women and children to develop safety plans for them inside the house and outside the home.
3. Cooperation with the competent authorities under the auspices of families and children to find solutions compatible with each family individually.
4. Training children to practice non-violent reactions to unload shipments generated by the negative view of violence they have inflicted on them.
5. Teaching children to empower them so that the positive attitudes of the control waves of anger and negative emotions to help them form relationships future safe and sound.
Was all praise to Allah, and I hope that I have been able to cover most aspects of the topic, which needs time and a larger effort by everyone and presented here only effort an individual is subject to the right and is subject to error and I am sure those who inform him that the weaknesses that the
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Thu Jun 21, 2012 4:36 pm
